Let go and Let him in!!

Everyday in our lives is faced with new challenges and opportunities;sometimes the challenges outweigh the opportunities but it is by the Grace of God that we are able to face them.

The world is fast progressing with new opportunities and innovations;in spite of  all this, one cannot ignore the increasing problems creeping up in our societies. It seems as though great values such as love, understanding,peace  and the Fear of God taught by our fore fathers are fading away at a quite alarming rate. Today all around the world we have violent unrest spreading at a fast rate, all these things motivated by seeds of hatred,an unforgiving nature and resentment; From the violence civil unrest in Ukraine to the violent war between Pakistan and Israel, honestly what is really going on?? It gets scary at times the way events are playing out in the world,it should just let us know that we don't have a lot of time left on earth, the end times as revelations described it,is playing out before our eyes. 
Time is not on our side, we must ensure that we fulfill all the assignments that the Lord gave us to do on earth before He comes to pass judge on us. Our prime focus is to ensure that we save as many souls as possible, the devil's works are too rampant.We must rise up as the soldiers of His divine army and defeat the devil and his henchmen.

The world has set its on standards and way of life; now it is normal to have issues of hatred,resentment and being unforgiving in our societies. We have young men and women killing and abusing each other, rivalry and hatred between family member, the alarming statistics on the issue of divorce and the prevailing issue of being unforgiving; I find all these events so heartbreaking and sorrowful.

Wherever you are reading this, i want you to realise that you have a purpose here on earth to ensure that God's kingdom is saved and not allow the devil to have his way. The little things you do can save millions of people;it can be in your family,communities,schools or workplace. Wherever you find yourself,try as much as possible to make an impact on people that will change them towards a more positive path!

Today i want us to focus on the issue of being unforgiving that is destroying many families and relationships, causing  many souls to fall short of the glory of God.

Being unforgiving is one thing that can hold  person's soul,mind and spirit ransom for many years. It steals your happiness,joy and ability to progress in life; in addition to this,it causes people to draw people away from you. It can be defined as your inability to forgive with your whole heart and not being able to think over issues without feeling any negative emotions.  An Unforgiving nature leads to hatred,resentment and bearing of grudges. When an unforgiving nature  degenerates to a grudge,then it means that you are on a destructive path.

Some of us have a tendency to be more emotional than others; when you are an emotional person you are easily hurt by certain actions that another would just shrug off and forget about. This character is not always the best because it makes it difficult for one to be free with you, i would understand because i categorise myself as an emotional person at times and so i know how it feels like. Being an emotional person is not always the best because when you allow every single action or word to hurt you, you begin to push people away from you and it affects you physically or emotionally. In life people will always do things to hurt you,by means of words and actions but how you deal with them depends on you and your ability to let go and forgive.

Forgiveness is not an easy process, it takes a lot of prayer and willingness to shed your pains. Letting go and being at peace within yourself takes time, sometimes we cannot understand why a person would go out his or her way to hurt us but then again there are a lot of mysteries in life that we are yet to understand. Being hurt emotionally can be best described like a person driving a knife repeatedly into your heart causing you deep pain that refuses to fade away. The pain is further worsened when the wound refuses to heal and becomes like a festering wound. The pain is unbearable and brings forth character traits of hatred,anger and resentment. This is what is destroying many families and relationships, it is also causing people not to progress in their christian lives which is very important.

God dislikes a heart that is not able to forgive and show love to others, God is a God that promotes the act of love among his children as stated in 1 Corinthians 13 verse 4-7:

"4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres."God is the best teach of Love and forgiveness as He sent his only begotten son to die for our sins so that we would not perish but have life and the fullness thereof. 

The unforgiving spirit presents itself in this manner, the victim in the situation will always make the life of the accused uncomfortable, the mere mention of the accused causes a lot of confusion and anger. The victim is never happy in the presence of the accused and is ever ready to sabotage the accused in anyway just to have revenge.An  Unforgiving nature causes you to care less about the next person's emotions, you just think of yourself and how you are hurting. You take certain decisions that would affect the accused without giving it a second thought because you just want to take revenge for the pain the person has caused you make the person feel the way you feel. When your character starts affecting people around you, you would realise that people move away from you;in addition to this, whenever you are around you tend to cause confusion and bring forth anger.

Being unforgiving arrests your ability to be happy because you spend so much time and energy allowing anger,hatred and resentment to engulf you. Spiritually, it feels as though you are chained to one place and you are unable enjoy the move of God in your life. Life is just too short for you to allow such negative emotions to overtake you. God has a purpose and prefect plan for you but how do you let it come to pass if you constantly only the devil to have his way in manipulating your feelings. The devil feels victorious when we are sad and anxious because then he knows that he has been able to achieve his motives in our life. The time we spend allowing grudges and the unforgiving spirit to rule over us, could be spent learning how to draw closer to God and spreading His word to the multitudes that are lost. There is great joy in the presence of the Lord..please don't deny yourself of it. Sometimes when things go wrong in our life,we think that it is God being wicked to us but we fail to see that the fault could be coming from us.

Life has taught me that no matter how hard a situation is,where forgiveness is needed we must avail ourselves to God in prayer and seek his help to help us forgive. Once you are able to unleash yourself and forgive, now we must pray for healing and be determined in our heart to change. 

I struggled at a point in my life to forgive; At the age of 16, i had my first boyfriend and everything seemed great between us. I was really in love and i was very willing to keep my relationship at any cost. My dream relationship was suddenly crushed to the ground and things took a sad dive. He started treating me in an ill manner,eventually things got worse when he made me aware of the fact that i had mistaken a mere friendship for a relationship. To add more salt to my wounds,he said i was being a distraction to him as he wanted to focus n reaching a certain level in life. I was truly hurt by his words and actions because I had put my all in to the relationship and honestly i was under the impression that it was a relationship since everything has been made official. To cut the long story, we broke up and i walked away with  pain,anger,frustration and resentment in my heart. I carried all these ill feelings with me into my next relationship which made things stressful and difficult. Whenever issues concerning my ex boyfriend came up, i would fly into anger, i simply did not want to hear anything about him. He tried to enter my life and seek forgiveness,so that we could be friends but I just did not want to have any of it.He tried various methods of making contact with me and i did not give the opportunity. I just wanted to forget about him and move on with my life but with time he kept creeping into my life one way or another unearthing all the pain and hurt in me.  If i had forgiven him and truly let go, I would not have been facing these series of issues in my life. I thought i was happy but i was just fooling myself; the mishaps of my relationship had made me insecure and i lacked confidence which was putting my current relationship on the edge.
Eventually i sat down and analysed the whole situation and finally realised that i needed to change and forgive him so that i could be happy and my current relationship would be liberated. As human beings,we think that when we bear grudges against people we are hurting them, but we are rather harming ourselves emotionally and spiritually. This is simply because the person who hurt you might just be walking around without any thought of what they may have done to hurt you or would just not care. I learnt to leave my battles to God for him to deal with and rather pray over my issues, from my honest point of view it has really help me grow as a person especially in my spiritual. You gain the understanding that you cannot fight back all the time and you need God to beside you,somethings can go beyond our physical strength and understanding. God is our lawyer in the midst of any kind of predicament that we are faced with,He will avenge our enemies and ensure they are brought to book. He will wipe away our tears and ensure that our glory and honour is restored back to us. You just have to go on your knees and surrender everything to him, He will take control of the situation.
So let's go back to my story, i decided to pray and seek forgiveness from, i also wanted God to help me forgive my ex boyfriend so that i could experience happiness in my life and in my relationship. I felt free after i did  this as though heavy burdens had been lifted off my chest, the kind of freedom i felt was unimaginable and i thank God so much for it. When you are unable to forgive a person, it feels like you are a slave to your own thoughts and emotions but once you are able to let go and forgive, things will be much better and smoother for you. We need to be happy in the midst of our trials in this world, we cannot allow other people to hijack our happiness.
No matter how much you have been hurt and frustrated by a person or a situation, never bear a grudge or allow an unforgiving nature to rule over you. Remember that if God can forgive us for the most simple sins to the abominable ones,we can also forgive each other when we are wronged. He has granted us the ability to do so, for we can do all things through Christ who strengthen us just as the good book says. 
Wherever you are, I want you to take a moment and ask yourselves these questions;
1. Is there anyone I bear a grudge against?
2. Is there anyone that I feel i must forgive?
3. If Christ can forgive me for my deeds,why can't i?
I just want you to take a quiet moment in prayer let the Holy spirit move within you,and begin to ask the Lord to forgive you for holding any grudges or for being unforgiving. Ask the Lord to grant you healing of any pain and anger that the person may have caused you,also pray that the Lord forgives those that wrong you. 
Its not an easy process but the act of forgiveness brings spiritual freedom,joy,happiness,peace and understanding. Let go of all that pain and hurt, Let God in, so we can express more love and fruits of the Holy spirit. There is a lot of confusion in this world, many people are losing their sense of direction and spirituality; we need to be united in all we do and always be at peace within us and with God. Let us come together and lean on to God's word for direction so that we can always be in divine alignment. 
Take time and reflect,allow the Spirit of God to direct you..Forgive and release all your animosities, God is ready to use those that are ready to unleash themselves and break boundaries!
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